Courtship dating china
"I'd try to break the ice and talk about my work, but they haven't the slightest idea who Tommy Hilfiger or Ralph Lauren is."For Dani Zhang, a 32-year-old civil servant, the pressure has come to a tipping point."In a fit of rage, my mother has told me that she'd rather see me marry somebody random and have kids," Zhang said.In Chinese popular culture, these urban, unmarried women over a certain age — usually 27, but it varies by location — are given an unflattering nickname: , or "leftover women." According to 2010 census figures cited in a report published by the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences, 50% of unmarried women between the ages of 25 and 29 lived in cities, compared to 46% of unmarried men in the same age group.And that divide widens dramatically with age; 54% of unmarried women between the ages of 40 and 45 lived in cities, compared to 21% of unmarried men in the same age range."If a courtship doesn't work out, they don't look for any shortcomings on their part and promptly blame it on the 'overly high standards' of women."But while many of these career-driven, so-called "leftover" women are content being single, their parents often think otherwise.
That was by far the most hurtful thing someone has said to me." To show that she's at least putting in effort, Zhang has conceded to getting coffee with strangers recommended by her extended family.Gu said that most of his business comes from parents who don't have time to sit around behind umbrellas every weekend.Sometimes, parents post ads for their children without their knowledge.The booming marriage market has even sparked a cottage industry of agents, who offer to save parents a day in the hot sun by posting notices on their behalf. Gu said he makes around 4,000 Yuan (about 0) per month from displaying laminated advertisements in a heavily trafficked area of the park.Some of these brokers charge a premium for access to a phone directory-like notebook with the contact information of unmarried locals. Each parent pays a fee of 100 Yuan (about ) for a six-month posting on his board.