Dating a borderline personality Hidden cam teen young
Perhaps you have been involved with someone who appears to be seriously interested in the relationship but who sometimes goes emotionally off the rails, lashes out at you, and becomes over-defensive.
And what if they also have an exaggerated need for attention, over-react when criticized, and seem to shut you out for no reason?
Both narcissists and borderlines lack the self-awareness of an “observing ego”.
That is they have difficulty reflecting on what they feel or need or want and are likely to be dishonest, avoidant or manipulative rather than clear and assertive.
This results from poor or incomplete individuation.
Healthy and secure separation from parents or caregivers means coming to see oneself as an independent being.
The DSM 5 classifications list ten types of personality disorder, two of which are “Borderline personality disorder” and “Narcissistic personality disorder”. Preoccupied with fantasies of success, beauty, or achievement.
The common descriptions make them appear to be quite distinct: Borderline personality disorder: Unpredictable, manipulative, unstable. Sees self as admirable and superior, and therefore entitled to special treatment.
And certainly they can be responses to acute trauma situations in people with no pre-existing issues.
Under serious stress, both types decompensate and can become essentially non-functional.
With the deflated Narcissist this can take the form of extreme rage, suicidal despair or sociopathic acting out or some combination of these.
Does it really make a difference whether you are attempting to have a relationship with a narcissist or a borderline?
Both are likely to have some serious challenges when it comes to sustaining healthy relationships. These outdated “survival skills” are based on the particular nature of the person’s early trauma combined with the developmental trajectory that followed.