Dating in forty
But for me, and my three best friends, the key word is “want” rather than need.
We all have fulfilling careers, lots of good friends and interesting lives.
It is no accident that in the story of Noah, the rain poured for 40 days, and submerged the world in water.
Just as a person leaves a mikveh pure, so too when the waters of the flood subsided, the world was purified from the licentiousness which had corrupted it in the days of Noah. Sinai for 40 days and came down with the stone tablets. Sinai as a nation of Egyptian slaves, but after 40 days they were transformed into God's nation.
The Talmud tells us that a mikveh must be filled with 40 se'ahs (a measure of water).
Immersion in a mikveh is the consummate Jewish symbol of spiritual renewal.
Sometimes I wonder if we convince ourselves we want children without really examining it.
Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of , that she loved her nieces and nephews but did not want children of her own.
Children are not for everyone, but there’s a lot of social pressure on women to procreate.
That decision can be pretty liberating – especially when you’re dating in your 40s: There’s no biological clock ticking away, which can put pressure on new relationships. You don’t have to limit yourself to men in your age group Not to feed the cougar cliché, but by the time you reach 40, the social stigma of dating younger men is so passé.
In my experience, younger men really don’t care much about age differences.
And maybe that’s where the cool 40-something men are hanging out, too. A lot of single 40-something females look and feel fantastic They do Pilates and yoga, they’re energetic, they take care of their skin and are into healthy eating.
Perhaps the benefit of not haemorrhaging energy into family stresses?