Tips on dating a divorcee
When I say "date," I'm referring to the old-school style of dating — not sleeping together or hooking up.
Have a good vetting process and keep the pipeline filled.
Beware of going out five times in a week with someone you just met!
One date per week within a few weeks turns into two dates per week, and then three dates per week. The only way another person will change is if he/she wants to change himself. As much as you’d like it to be super efficient and speedy, it’s usually not, nor should it be.
Dating from a place of anger doesn’t usually lead to good choices.
Don’t skip the counseling sessions — they will help tremendously down the road. We do what is comfortable instead of what is right.
Dating after divorce isn’t easy, and will require a great group of people surrounding you to keep you motivated and inspired!
After you feel the chemistry, look carefully for the “interior” traits that count, like kindness, reliability, consistency, honesty and intelligence first. Is this person willing to accept you, your complexities, maybe your children? Are you on the same page with regards to finances, parenting, living situations, marriage or more kids?But be open on your idea of “the package.” You need to have excellent photos (starting with a great smiling headshot). 4 rules for nailing the perfect profile picture As women, we often feel like we just want to date one person at a time. Dating should be like a horse race — you need many horses to make it a race!That includes great head-to-toe shots as well as of you and only you! The horse that’s winning on the first lap might break its leg and might need to be taken out of the race.I coach all of my clients through a “marriage map” exercise to create a road map of a partner that will make them happy, which is necessary to start picking the right people. Many women stare blankly at me when I ask this question, because they’ve been so busy taking care of everyone else around them that they’ve totally lost sight of what makes them happy.Make a list of five to 10 things that bring you joy, and start to do them again.